Obviously, I woke up. I remember driving myself home because there were two vehicles at the hospital and we had to stop for diesel in the truck I was driving. An acquaintance named Bubba was at the gas station and stopped Tucker to talk to him and came to say hello to me and asked why I was moving so slowly to which Tucker answered, “We’re just getting home from the hospital, she had surgery.”
Bubba looked bewildered and turned to Tucker and said, “What the fuck are you doing letting her drive and why are you standing here bullshitting with me. Get her home!” Bubba came over and opened the truck door and helped me into the truck and reached across me and buckled me in and quietly said, “You let me know when you get tired of his shit and call me.” I felt sort of vindicated and I smiled and kissed him on the cheek.
I got home and got into bed only to have Tucker disappear for about 12 hours. I was relieved. He said he had some stuff to take care of and I didn’t care to question him over it. My Harlow took care of me and even Freddy pitched in to make sure I didn’t have to get up and do too much. Tucker went and came back and pretended as if nothing untoward had even happened.
My convalescence was too much for Tucker’s delicate constitution however since roughly three days or so after I was home, Tucker had a hard on and that meant I needed to exorcise the demons. It may have been some tiny holes in my belly and they may have taken said organ out through my navel but I still had a fucking organ ripped out of my fucking body and I didn’t want to have sex. We got into a wicked, knock-down, drag out fight. He railed at me in the bedroom, I followed him into the living room telling him what a selfish prick he was, he followed me back to the bedroom to tell me I didn’t really love him anymore and things had changed. I bought into his bullshit briefly and tried to explain to him that I’d. Just. Had. Surgery. He didn’t hear me and just kept on. Finally, I ran out of steam and was in a bit of pain and I just sat down on the bed and stared at him. Whereby Tucker decided he was sleeping on the couch. I was so relieved but at the same time I was absolutely furious. He didn’t get to decide his feelings were hurt. He didn’t get to say he was sleeping on the couch. *I* was going to make him sleep there because I told him he had to. Yes, we all know I should have gone back to bed and let it lie but I’m a stupid bitch who was well and truly enraged and
possibly also high on pain
I marched back into the living room. The back of the couch faced my approach…I stared down at him with the cover pulled up to his neck and promptly reached down grabbed the bottom of the back of the couch, lifted it up and dumped him out on the floor and then pushed the couch over on top of him.
“You….” I pointed my finger in his general direction under the couch, “Can go fuck YOURSELF from now on.”
My retreat was met with his cries of, “Oh you can’t FUCK me but you can throw a goddamned couch on me!?!”
I sort of chuckled to myself while I listened to him right the couch and plop back down on it. I had hurt myself somewhat but I felt better…I was sure the kids heard all of it and then I felt ashamed suddenly. I thought and thought about how to get away from him. How was I going to do any of this? The same thoughts I’d had time and again and never a tangible, solid, real answer came to me.
I had to save money back; it’s as simple as that. Tucker was freaky strange good with numbers, like savant good and if he had any access to my checking account, he’d know exactly how much was there and what I should have. It made it next to impossible to rat hole money in any significant way.
Soon it became time for Freddy to go to Job Corps. I had still come no closer to formulating a plan but thought maybe with only Harlow to worry about it could be easier to get out. Nothing changed. I had to go to court every month to have them reset my court date for the following month. Tucker continued to promise me he’d take the blame for it all if I stayed with him. He worked some deal over between his lawyer and the ADA in that county to pay restitution of some form and have him let off with a conviction, time served which frankly was all of about 2 hours and have my charges dropped.
I took Freddy to the bus station. We all went. He was scared and nervous. I made sure he had money and told him to just do his level best to get through it and get through with it. He promised he would and you could see the emotions passing over his face when he looked to Tucker to leave. Freddy is a hugger and Tucker repeatedly told us that I was busy turning him into a pussy momma’s boy. He gave Tucker a solid hug anyway and I was heartened to see that he returned it.
I watched my boy get on a bus and pull out and away from me. I felt a sense of relief that he was away from us and all our bullshit. I hate the word dysfunctional. It has become stained with overuse and most often misunderstanding. Bullshit works. I was glad he was away from it. I wanted him to learn to take care of himself and since I was doing a piss poor job of it, he needed something. I still worried about him so though. I felt sick about him not being able to call and just be picked up. There was no off site visitation for two weeks and I knew I wouldn’t be able to afford the gas to go see him during that time.
I waited until I was back in the car to start crying. Tucker just sat indulgently and acted as if he were being magnanimous by letting me sob over my 16 year old going off to live somewhere else. I cleared my head and put the car in drive. I took us back home 40 miles outside of town and my mind raced. It was all I could do to contain my excitement over thinking that now … now I could do it.
I only had Harlow to contend with and we could begin going through closets and throwing things away. Packing boxes and telling him it was off season clothing. Separating everything I’d painstakingly merged wouldn’t be something I could do with him there at home and he was always…fucking…there. Always sitting at the
I got income tax money back finally and told him we were only getting ½ of what we were really supposed to get. I had some stipend money coming from school that he didn’t know about and I thought I could get it all past him. Income tax came and the bank wouldn’t deposit without signatures and ID’s and then it turned out that he owed the bank money from one of his many schemes and they would likely confiscate it to cover his debt. I had to tell him I messed up the return and we got more back because he had to be with me to cash the motherfucker. He took it. All of it. I had some money come on the stipend and he asked what the red card in my wallet was for and then he took it too. I had to start over and figure something else out. At that moment what that something else would be, I couldn’t fathom but I also could not know that within months, he would present me with my chance for escape.